People are going to meet you where they are mentally, because they know nothing else. Unless they have taken strides to change their patterned behavior, they will present their lowest form to your highest form – and assume you’re the bad guy.
The deflection, crude behavior, and insults are a defense mechanism coming from someone who hasn’t tried to work on themselves. We never really heal.
But – it is not your responsibility to guide and fix anyone, especially if they can do it for themselves. You have to be able to save yourself. No one is going to do that for you.
While you’ve done your shadow work and accept all parts of yourself, someone else is hiding everything, and hoping you don’t notice the large lump showing beneath their rug.
Some believe it is easier to lie or hurt others – it isn’t. You’re putting on a mask to distract from the simple fact that you are hurt.
And there it is, the simple explanation without an appointment with your therapist.
At any given time, you are running into someone on the street who has issues…and it’s not your job to fix it right then and there. I wouldn’t take it personally.
For those who have worked on ourselves, we have to keep doing so daily. It doesn’t disappear and fix itself over night. Situations and people have a way of testing you in ways you won’t imagine until it happens – and even though you don’t bend under pressure…your nerves and brain are toiling while trying to understand what the heck is going on!
Intersections allow you to cross, and while someone may be in the vicinity of your bubbles for a brief moment – let it be just that.