I see the realm of ignorance hasn’t broaden.
This is a touchy topic, but let’s talk about it.
African Americans and other people of color stereotype their own people, constantly.
My recent experience is proof many do not want to shed the bullshit.
I have namely been classified as “white washed,” because I listen to music other than hip hop. Being called a hoe isn’t my cup of tea, especially if the basis of the song is to debase women.
I refuse to wear Nike or Jordan’s. I later found out Jordan’s fund prisons. Next to that, I don’t “twerk.” My fashion sense doesn’t allow it. If that’s what you’re into, that’s fine. I won’t judge. But it’s not my thing.
There are some things that I do because it was self taught. A lot of it helped culminate who I am. I’m not interested in sleeping in an unclean house. Walking on crumby floors. Stealing from the “man.”Toting a gun because it’s cool. And a slew of other things I’ve actually seen occur.
However, my avoidance isn’t because that’s all black people do. I detour around this type of life because it’s degrading, disgusting and it makes my skin crawl. Wanting better for myself was a healing process, and never to remove my race. I am Afro-Mexicana. It’s obvious and I can’t replace who I am.
To look at someone and immediately try to peg them is disrespectful, but in this sense…it’s gone too far. At first, I laughed at the situation because it is ridiculous. However, the context of what was being suggested made me realize a lot more was going on.
To state this woman favors me is quite the reach. She doesn’t have similar facial features, and her skin tone is darker. As my mother pointed out – she is attempting to look like me. That I don’t mind.
It’s the mention of being in a poly group, and having found someone who favors me that rubbed me the wrong way. She posted this on my public profile for the entire world to see.
I don’t talk to her well enough for her to have done this. She could have messaged me for shits and giggles. And I don’t care about anyone’s sex life, but mentioning the group you’re in, on my profile, where I keep a certain type of decorum is faceless and disrespectful.
All of my friends saw it. I messaged my good friend, who knew I’d texted her to complain. The entire situation is so strange! I would NEVER do something like this!
My significant other laughed at it, he is aware that I am classy, and keep to myself. What it boils down to is she found the Temu version of me, and thought she’d let me know.
She is not me. And I am not her.
It also suggests she has some type of interest in me, and it’s just now coming out. I’m literally in a committed relationship. Why in gods name would you mention this? Neither of us have faulted in our love for each other, and we broadcast it constantly.
So it lead me to realize black women are still stereotyping me. Don’t you have something better to do with your free time? I give everyone the benefit of the doubt, and unfortunately, she has been blocked.
I have a small circle of friends for this very reason, and I’m sticking with a new policy – no new friends.
What she did was gross, tacky, and classless. And she’s my age! This is insane.
I’ll let this pass, but I thought bringing this up was important.
Being black doesn’t make you ghetto, stupid or easy. Anyone can fit those labels. You can be a person of color and respect yourself. Listen to the music you want, and dress how you please.
But self respect stems from within. Not from acceptance of others who aren’t accepting themselves.
The Heiress JCS 