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My mother would say, “you’ll have a hard time finding someone. You’ve accomplished so much.”

I have no desire to date a man doing less than me. And furthermore, who has less. It has been brought to my attention enough to know that when a man is lacking and not reaching his potential, he will try to take what you have.

I watched my ex start off strong and self sabotage because things started aligning for me. It was sad but I should have seen it coming. He wanted me as I was when we met – picking up the pieces and starting over again.

He just didn’t want me actually succeeding as I did.

“What about me?”

“I should have done things different in my career…”

“Have you ever won anything before?”

My all time favorite that was a huge red flag, “am I a loser?”

Yes. You are.

Because he wanted to be.

No woman should wonder if a man is going to step in and ruin her life. She should have comfort in knowing. So many men message me, daily…and I can smell bullshit from a mile away.

If you don’t have enough money, get a better job. If you want people to see your music, find a way. If you need a better place…find a better place.

If you can’t manage any of that, or anything that improves your own life…leave women alone. They’re not your mothers, caretakers or scapegoats. And we’re definitely not your saviors.

I made a PSA all over my accounts because men keep messaging me. And you can tell they have nothing to offer. Whether they see the posts or not isn’t the point.

My mother was right – I upped my own worth exponentially.

The bar has been raised to the 13th level.