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While the internet has become a vital tool, there are some aspects that I’d rather avoid at all costs – that of connections via my phone or computer.

It is already difficult navigating life, dating apps and internet interactions have those who are generally meek acting bolder online because they’re hiding behind a screen.

It is hard to determine someone’s intent, and people acting in this play of life will even question yours to cover up their own ulterior motive. We’ve all believed someone is or isn’t.

Men, both attractive and mildly entertaining feel they have some claim over women. So the prettier you are, the more disgusting they become, or the more they lie to get their way. And this isn’t just through dating apps.

Even talking on the phone doesn’t save anyone from hidden truths about someone’s agenda. Touching grass and meeting people without your phone, is what’s needed.

I now refuse to use dating apps, or make any online connections ever again. I’ve made a handle of decent friends, and that is my limit.

It is already hard knowing someone’s intent at a coffee shop or a bar, phones and dating apps make it easier for people to lie as if it means nothing.

Scrolling through hundreds of matches gained within a days time is insane. The ratio on dating apps is 70:30 men to women. That is crazy. The odds of dating someone who’s married are very high, and even higher for washed up men with emotional issues, seeking someone to use and dominate.

Male or female, dating apps and internet connections (like “finding friends”) lowers your worth. I like to tell people you only have access to my profile…not me. But that won’t stop someone from sending a dick pic, or assuming texting at night means sex.

Since we’re all adults, as soon as a guy even utters he’s in the mood, I divert, or leave. I block people without hesitation.

It’s easier to gauge people in person, but the truth of the matter lies in this.

Meet someone organically. Lock eyes with that one guy. Smile wildly at the woman standing in line waiting for her coffee. Assess someone’s attire and comment on their style. Boldly say hello, and open doors.

Be human. Not your phone.

And be yourself. Everyone is taken.