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I had originally realized the folly a month before making my decision. The landscape had changed. To be certain, we discussed what was unfolding, and he agreed he had messed up.

My concern was his patterned behavior, and his seemingly lack of care for the situation. So, I began to launch my attack, blocking him everywhere except two places.

When he made the discovery, he became cold towards me. And I will never forget what he said. Initially, I was experiencing PMS. I’m sure he thought he had successfully gaslit me, but I never forget anything.

I thought I was being too harsh, so when be mentioned I blocked him, he very coolly said, “I’ve had people block me before. It makes me consider suicide.”

Unfortunately, I’ve heard that line before. He was being manipulative, trying to make me feel bad when he’s the person who messed up. No, I didn’t consider he was a narcissist.

I don’t think suicide is a joke, nor should you use it to get your way. The feeling of uselessness and helplessness is dimmer than most can imagine. Because he messed up, that was all he had to say. Then he suggested I was playing mind games.

Ha.

Why did all of this occur?

He wouldn’t keep a job and was pushing his music career like he was making millions. When everything changed for me, he literally asked, “what about me?” He became pouty, or he was extremely delusional. A friend pointed out it was obvious he was jealous. And that was dangerous.

It was a problem because we had talked so much about keeping an even keel…here he was destroying my trust.

Then came his money troubles. My mother was very sick, and I told him if she were hospitalized again, I’d need him. He made a note that if he flew out here, he’d simply stay out here.

Why?

There was a plan set in place. Save money, move when it’s time. I needed help and he was attempting to force his way in. Fortunately, she started slowly feeling better, eating and doing more. His help wasn’t needed. I was told by my mother to contact my aunt and uncle, instead of this man who was becoming a stranger.

Maybe he was enthusiastic because I offered to reimburse his ticket, and possibly give him change for helping. There is family money in cash and in an estate as well. Hard to say, given that he didn’t utter anything.

But actions speak louder than words.

I do not regret my decision. He immediately ran to a mutual friend, to tell her. She of course contacted me. Of all people to run to, as well. She’s having a baby, today.

To women reading this – walk away if you have more. In most cases, you will be taken advantage of. It’s ok to go after what you want and still be at the top of your game. The only reason any man would manipulate you is because you can’t be controlled otherwise.