What is the last thing you learned?

There are many things I can do, but I was lacking in what I can do for myself.

I had come to a point where I stretched myself thin, always seeking to seem pristine, and helpful to others. The last time I was cast down because I couldn’t be controlled, I took a step back and evaluated what that meant for me.

Being a people pleaser is on a road that leads to nowhere. If someone is expectant, they are not happy…and will probably never be until they decide to heal.

Learning to say no, setting boundaries and doing what I’ve wanted to do – whether it is to go to the art museum or simply buy a croissant helped me realize what I was missing, why it was important to do for myself and to keep those boundaries…and why I needed to love myself.

Self love is more than shopping sprees and luxurious bubble bathes…saying no. Setting boundaries and sticking with them, and standing up for yourself is self love moreover. Showing people you care about yourself draws a line in the sand. While they may continue trying you, it will come to mind now that you may say no.

It is an everyday thing, because you meet new people…or you’re tired. But everyday, I remind myself how much I care for myself, and how proud that I am.

My happiness is more important than what someone thinks they can get from me. My peace is more important than making someone else temporarily happy because they need a fix (ie energy vampire, narcissists).

You won’t hurt anyone doing for yourself. You will hurt yourself pouring from an empty cup.