Fear ripples through the body faster than you realize it’s happening. It blocks your judgments, flares your insecurities, and highlights your ignorance.

That’s the basis of fear. Then there’s manipulation. Oftentimes, you assume you’re being manipulated because the other party is unhappy. They’re afraid of something. They’re literally visualizing their failures, death and shortcomings through your accomplishments.

It activates the need to disregard someone else’s success, or hurt others simply because. I believe it gives off an adrenaline rush to do so, why else would you be risen to the inclination to cause suffering?

The opposite doesn’t take much effort.

When someone is inclined to choose cruelty over sensible behavior, it is to lower their victim, so they’re on the same seeing eye level.

When we fearfully react as defense, it only gives them a high. I recently read that tell a narcissist good news triggers them – what if we stop tippy toeing around these types and be open and honest with our happiness? Blind them with the light you are, instead of dimming it. Act as ignorantly happy towards them as they act in ignorance and anger towards you.

Silence scares them – they try harder. Arguments fuel them, the fight to the bitter end. Monologues turn in to future argument material.

So share the good news, smile in their face, and say, “I’m sorry you’re not happy. But I am. Deal with it!”

Genuinely be happy, genuinely be yourself. No more making way for people who need to work on healing themselves. Don’t shrink to fit a box meant to trap you.