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Recently, I cut ties with someone who basically showed me their true colors. I hate divulging on too much out of respect, but I came to realize she is extremely mentally unstable – and isn’t doing anything to help balance herself out.

Instead of a tirade, or an emotionally fueled text message or two…I quietly blocked her and went on my way. It is how I deal with people who I know wouldn’t hear reason, anyway.

I began piecing things together from her behavior – the major point was that she kept me around in case I give some of my lavish, glamorous or cutesy clothes away. At first, I was thrilled someone could take them off my hands, and my unused garments wouldn’t end up in the landfill…but one day, she just stopped messaging me. Flat out.

I realized I hadn’t really given anything away, or told her about it. At first, I felt guilty. I had a few things to give away but not much. But I felt tired and suspicious.

Inherently, she went a bought cheap items as if to keep me coming back and giving things away. Honestly, I’m capable of buying the things she purchased. She would invite me on trips and never call or text. She offered her cars to me, but never went through with her promise.

Finally, I caught that her behavior was on the basis of what I could do for her. These are not the details in which a decision was made, by the way.

The straw that broke the camels back was when she openly gawked at her neighbor – she is married. She further explained she followed him on TikTok. I was very disheartened by that…I am a loyal person.

I don’t condone cheating…just leave if you’re miserable. There were more stories, more things unfurling until I finally realized how fair weather she was. I’m not upset about my decision.

Laughing more, as I log on to my TikTok one day, and someone she knew tried to follow me. She has a type, and I knew automatically, the guy following me was an ex or a future boy toy. I blocked him immediately, then laughed to myself.

I am not one to gossip, but to address issues and move on, I’ve told no one, will never state her name or anything further with details. Simply this story, and nothing more.

I’m not appalled – I’m tickled. Messy people hop online and give away information out of spite. I’m wondering if she realizes how small my circle really is…

So small that it almost doesn’t exist. Instead of accepting that I moved on, she attempted to keep tabs on me (let’s be honest…she probably still is)

And this isn’t the first time someone has pulled this on me. I usually cut people off who are abusive and narcissistic…her intent was disguised as friendship. While I’m all for giving people the benefit of the doubt, once I see you’ve actually been trying to pin the door down to where you keep your skeletons, I leave without hesitation.

You couldn’t explain the reasons to people who were pretending in the first place. I am grateful I didn’t get too consumed in the friendship.

I’m hoping she learned a valuable lesson…?