I have never thought the grass was greener on the other side. Even when my ex was the absolute worst, I remained loyal.
When a woman, specially, tells you she is taken…it seems that the immediate reaction is – I can steal her away from him.
Last summer, two people i stopped talking to found me. One jumped straight to the point, to no one’s surprise. The other suggested, out of no where, that he could help write sex scenes in my novel!
I immediately blocked both. I’m not sure why people think beautiful woman are open game, considering the efforts my s/o put into barely starting a relationship, after having waited an entire year!
I deserved that type of respect, and furthermore, show him the same undying loyalty. While we want change in this world, we’re securely angling way from it, considering what I constantly put up with.
The point is clear – I’m beautiful and desirable. I’m also not to keen on those being the highlights of my existence!!
The betterment now, is to block and ignore. But I am addressing this openly now. I am not bragging. It is insidious, disgusting and disheartening. You will not find yourself wrapped up in my wonder…as I am not for anyone but one.
You may seek me, and I will not be found. You may desire – I will scorn you in return. And I realize the lesson won’t be learned, but no one gets to tread over my threshold to my domain, and assume a reward is to be given. This man has poured so much into me, and I reciprocated and did the same. I do not idle on what if, or look for more. My happiness is wrapped up in love, loyalty and contentment. If there were ever an example of how to be a man, exhibit A would be the love of my life.
And so, I will continue to address this. People have told me I enjoy being hit on. I do not. It makes me feel vulnerable and defenseless. My ex told me I was bragging – he thought it was ok that men sought after someone they couldn’t have.
No means no.
The Heiress JCS 